Monday, October 10, 2005

4 A's in a relationship

Attended a colleague's wedding on Saturday. It was held in Hilton hotel, high tea reception (church wedding). The food was nice, the main event was better. My colleague look so much prettier that day than any other normal working day. Though she is tired due to all the ceremonies, she still looks good with the make-up and in her gown. No wonder ppl always says a gal always look the prettiest on her wedding day. It makes me ponder how dearie would look like when she dresses in gown. Hmmm.... *ponder ponder ponder...


I feel very happy for my colleague, i mean yes its a happy occasion, but its also means a whole new lease of life awaiting. Its always nice to see both loving couple exchanging vows and preparing to live up to all those fairy tales stories. I wish her a happy and blissful marriage! =)


I beginning to think of what i should do during my big day, where will it be held at things like that, ytd when i meet my dearie, i wanted to settle down, but at the back of my mind i know that i'm not financially stable, though we love each other so much, i still feel we should still give each other more times, i have yet to finalise whether should i "chiong" for my career or just have a balance lifestyle, there's still so many outstanding things i have yet to decide and accomplish, Other than that, she's not even classified as adult in the eyes of government(She's not even 21 !) so I guess i should wait until both of us are more prepared. =)


*Good choice i guess, thumbs up ;)


Anyway during the ceremony, the pastor brings out the ingredient for Love, more for a marriage life. I thought it is very relevant and important for any relationship and not just for marriage couple, and i gonna type what i felt for each of the ingredient the pastor mention, and i hope by sharing it now, maybe could help whatever ppl whom are reading this.


ACCEPTANCE
In a relationship, we must learn to accept one another, only then we can go further. Most of the times, we are worlds apart, or should i just simply say we are different, Maybe that's the reason why ppl always say opposite attract, but whatever the case, it is important to accept one another flaws and come out with a compromise.
There are no two identical person in this world, even the character of a twins are different, so learn to accept one another.


APPRECIATION
In a relationship, we should learn to appreciate one another. We should never take for granted of the things our spouse or our partner do for us. A simple "thank you" could even help a long way. As the word implies, Appreciate means "To raise in value or price, especially over time." Therefore the more you appreciate your spouse or your partner, the more important your other spouse or partner would feel over time, nobody would want to feel unimportant in a relationship, so by appreciating, it would help both parties.


AFFECTION
We have to show affection in our relationship, correct me if i am wrong for up to this point in time i still do not know of any couple could survive a relationship without physical touch, as in not even the least of holding hand or kissing. We human beings are all affection creatures. We love to be caress, "sayang', cuddle, hug etc. Nonetheless the more the frequency of affection we show to our spouse, the more they feel loved.


ATTENTION
We've come to the last part of the 4 A's, that is attention. Anyone here hate attention??? No one? of cos, In fact all of us, from young to old loves attention. Sometimes, young kids do certain things to attract their parents attention. How often have you heard your child, your newphew, your close friend's child says " Hey dad (mummy), look at me, i know how to do this, i know how to do that." How many times have we heard, read on newspaper that most juvenile cases are as a result of lack of attention from the parents to their children. Likewise, in a relationship, we are always craving for attention from our partners. A simply sentence like "You look so beautiful in the dress today" or "You look so smart in that suit" reallie makes the day for anybody.
Girls love their partner who pay attention to the little details of their appearance. anybody disagree? i guess almost all bfs or husband in the world agrees with me. Likewise for guys, we also do craves for attention from our gf, because we are just simply human!


So much for the 4 A's. I'm not trying to sounds like a relationship guru or whatsoever, but more like a sharing session. It's also give me a good time to reflect on my own relationship. I guess anybody who understand these 4 A's will reallie score well in their own relationship.


Lastly, Do it not because it is being practise and thus have to follow, but rather do it because you love your partner. For me, I do all the 4 A's because i love my Joanne. =)

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